These Are the Friends With Benefits Rules. A clean break must be possible (and know that it will end eventually). Make sure you’re already happy and OK in your life. Both he and you are allowed to do whatever you want outside of the time you’re together. We think we can be just friends with benefits, but we're not wired that way. He's everything you've been looking for in a man except for one important thing; he's not looking for a commitment. In fact, he's upfront and honest enough with you to let you know this right from the start. All he's looking for is a friend with benefits relationship. Whether you call them flings, situationships, or friends with benefits, here are 13 subtle signs that it could be turning into something a bit more serious. You've begun exchanging thoughtful text messages with them. If you are getting to know each other more over text, it could be headed to a relationship. The CW.